LAST DAY OF MAY!!!! I feel like the “Eye of the Tiger” should be playing all day today! Brock is already at school and Sydney is headed out the door in like 20 minutes FOR THEIR LAST DAY OF SCHOOL! Last week I could not think of what to write about and still came up with 1000 words–no one who does life with me is surprised by that. My friend Jeff calls these my “manuscripts” not blog posts–whatever, I have all the feelings and lots of words, and I just SURVIVED MAY, so buckle up buttercup I have some words to use!
First my daughter tried out for the A Cappella group at school called “Walk the Line.” Am I living out Pitch Perfect dreams through her? YES YES YES!!! Was I more nervous for her than I was at any of my own auditions ever? YES!! But listen, my baby went in there, stood up in front of the judges, a bunch of high schoolers, a bunch of middle schoolers and SLAYED IT!!!! I could not have been more proud of that girl. I know what it cost that little body to move her feet, one in front of the other, to stand in front of the judges. I know she took hold of the microphone even though her hand was shaking. I know she forced her body to sing, even though she wanted to simultaneously throw up and pass out. I wanted to stand up and yell at the judges: “Do you have any idea how much she practiced this?” I wanted to grab them and say: “Do you know what that just cost her?” But I didn’t. I just cried. I cried because I was so proud of her. I was so thankful to the Lord that she has this amazing voice and that He has been prompting her to step out of her comfort zone. And I cried because I knew if she made the group I would be the best freaking A Ca Mom this town has ever seen.
WELL GUESS WHAT????? She made it!!!! There are two groups. Walk the Line is the Varsity group and Sting is the JV group. Sydney made the JV group. Now the choir teacher told us specifically not to call them that, but she is not my boss and will probably never read this. (and if you do please don’t kick Sydney off for the sins of her mother) Sting will not be competing and will be doing a lot of community stuff. I could not think of anything better for my girl. To learn and get comfortable in a non-competitive atmosphere will be great for her. It will also give me time to get my A Ca mom game going strong.
And in the midst of all the fun, and watching my girl walk through all the emotions and fear, I thanked God. I did! Because its moments like this that she and God develop a relationship that is all their own. Every stinking time He shows up when she needs Him, she trusts Him a little more. Every time she faces her fear and tells her flesh NO, she learns what He is made of. It was the most precious thing in May for sure. Capped off by this, as we are getting into the car Sydney says, “Well that was totally a God thing because I could not have gotten through that if he hadn’t been with me. I just wanted to throw up, but suddenly, when I started singing I was fine and I knew I would still go to heaven even if I messed up, so what do I care about making it if I am going to heaven. Jesus loves me anyway.” AND SHE LOOKED OVER AT HER MOM TO SEE HER RESPONSE AND REALIZED HER MOM HAD DIED BECAUSE HER DAUGHTER FIGURED OUT AT 13 WHAT IT TOOK HER 40 YEARS TO LEARN.
BUT NOT REALLY…..
I also wanted to record that I survived two award ceremonies with minimal feelings of “Not Doing Enough.” I don’t know, maybe I became a little more mature in the last year. I just sat there remembering how I am committed to becoming the mom that does life in a God honoring way. In order for me to be the mom that is not screaming profanity at my children we have to have a “slower than most of Rockwall pace.” That translates into saying no to myself a lot. I got so run down last week from the month of saying no to myself. Telling myself NO to food I wanted to eat, NO things I wanted to buy, NO to things I wanted to do, NO to friends I wanted to help, and NO Netflix that needed bingeing. Telling myself NO wears me out! However, if I don’t say NO enough I turn into screaming profanity mom and disrespectful wife. Also, I am an extrovert living with a bunch of introverts that need down time to re-coup. That means saying NO to always running around doing stuff so they can rest. Becoming a mom that my kids don’t have to survive is more important to me than anything else. I know that now. Everyday I get a tiny bit closer to not turning to rage to cope with stress. I hate how many times in the last month I have unloaded on them and had to go back and say, “I am so sorry I yelled at you, I was mad about something else and I took it out on you.” Pride stops me from apologizing because it tells me, “You are right, how dare they, look at all you do for them!” But I did it because Jesus wants me to, and He is more important to me than my pride. As I walk with Jesus day after day and learn to be in control of my feelings, I will be able to stop myself before I unload, but not yet. The month of May brought out the worst in me and it humbled me and made me realized I have made progress, but there is still a long way to go. I just keep telling the kids that I will pay for their therapy.
I have also realized this month that the fight of my life will be to stay focused on the Lord. I surprised myself this month at how quickly the Bible gets buried under paperwork on my desk. I believe myself to be someone who is in love with God’s Word and I am often shocked when people say they think God’s word is boring or they don’t understand it. I’m all, “Are you kidding! It’s alive, its life changing, it’s how you know who God is!!!” I self righteously think, “Man, I could not go a day without reading God’s Word.” This month I hate to admit that there were several days that my Bible got left on my desk without being opened. It shocked me. My self-righteousness came to roost, so to speak. I was humbled and realized that this is no joke. I shut down communication between me and the Lord for several days because I was “too busy.” I use quotes around “too busy” becasue I find it funny that I used that as my excuse. If I am too busy to read His word it’s because I have not said NO to enough stuff!!!! But God, in His loving-kindness is always running down the lost sheep. His word says He would leave the 99 to find the 1 who had strayed and gotten lost. At church this weekend I heard this quote, “Base your choices on what God’s Word says, that way you are thinking like God and not thinking like man.” I was like, “Oh heck yeah!! That is so good!” God gently whispered, “How do you think like me if you think you don’t need to be in My Word everyday.” Oh, right, sorry Lord. In order to be the mom that doesn’t scream profanity at her kids, to be a respectful wife, to teach bible studies to other women, and to over come depression and anxiety I have to be transformed by God’s Word. The way that I do that is to read God’s Word, that’s it! As easy as that! Except it’s not easy, it’s the fight of my life.
I have had to sit myself down and say, “Self, you are super ready to get on Insta and FB, but you are reluctant to pick up your Bible. That just shows me that Flesh Self has taken over Spirit Self and we can’t function like that.” I have had to repent and ask God to help me focused on Him. I can actually ask God for that!!! Isn’t that cool? He know’s that I have to battle my flesh in order to sit down and read His word so He tells me to ask for help from Him! My flesh doesn’t want to be exposed to God’s word because Flesh Self doesn’t like to have change and God’s word will transform me to be more like Jesus. Flesh Self say’s “No thanks, I just want more of everything!” Saying no to self, although it wears me out is where the battle is won. Reading God’s Word teaches me to think like Him and not to let my feeling run the show.
So by, by May. You were the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. By, by school year and hello summer! I have so many things I want to write about and I am hoping that summer means lots of time to write!!!